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Today, we'll explore difficult conversations in relationships and provide valuable insights to make them easier.
In the early stages of our relationship, we realized that discussions about money triggered emotional responses within us that had nothing to do with money. A lighthearted incident with Angus' accountant comparing Angus' financial knowledge to the accountant's cat, where the cat came out ahead, provided some foreshadowing for this being a difficult topic. And Rohini's encounter with a bailiff due to Angus'unpaid parking tickets reinforced this. So our early conversations about money were filled with judgments, criticism, insecurities, fears, and desire for validation.
Fortunately, we learned the importance of recognizing and playing to our strengths in service to relationship harmony. But we could only make these practical money decisions when we had clarity.
Slowing down allowed us to be present with our feelings and aware of our state of mind. Listening to the feedback of our emotions and recognizing the state of our nervous system regulation allowed us to take better care of ourselves so we could avoid taking out our emotional pain on our partner.
It became easier to see that the source of our suffering was not them but the misunderstandings in our consciousness. Having perspective on this allows us to be with feelings and let them move through rather than discharging upset on our partner--eventually, clarity returns.
Being open and vulnerable with ourselves also opens us to experience the truth of who we are beyond our conditioning. This is what wakes us up from our limiting beliefs. It also makes it possible to show up to our relationships with an open heart, and all conversations become opportunities for deeper intimacy and understanding.
If you would like to listen to the Rewilding Love Podcast, it comes out in a serial format. Start with Episode 1 for context. Click here to listen. And, if you would like to dive deeper into the understanding I share along with additional support please check out the Rewilders Community.
Rohini Ross is co-founder of “The Rewilders.” Listen to her podcast, with her partner Angus Ross, Rewilding Love. They believe too many good relationships fall apart because couples give up thinking their relationship problems can’t be solved. In the first season of the Rewilding Love Podcast, Rohini and Angus help a couple on the brink of divorce due to conflict. Angus and Rohini also co-facilitate private couple's intensive retreat programs that rewild relationships back to their natural state of love. Rohini is also the author of the ebook Marriage, and she and Angus are co-founders of The 29-Day Rewilding Experience and The Rewilders Community. You can follow Rohini on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. To learn more about her work and subscribe to her blog visit: TheRewilders.org.